This week, I’m sharing 5 things I’m thankful for, in no particular order. On Sunday, I wrote about my “home church,” which you can read here. On Monday, I wrote about my current church, which you can read here. And yesterday, I wrote about my son, which you can read here.
No one has supported and believed in me like my wife has.
We went on our first date on February 14, 1999 and were married on March 9, 2002. While it’s not ever been perfect, it’s been right. I’m not perfect and she’s not perfect but God is and He’s held us together when nothing else could have.
We got married too young, with all the confidence of youth and none of the wisdom we needed. But God has provided every time we’ve found ourselves backed into a corner. When we woke up one morning to discover ourselves at the bottom of a very deep financial debt hole, we discovered what it really meant to surrender our finances to His Will. When I let my natural sarcasm and impatience get out of control, we learned what it really meant to forgive and be forgiven. When we were living 700 miles from our family and suddenly unemployed, we found out what it really meant to trust God and each other.
We got married too young but God – as only He can do – molded us together and brought us through. We’re not perfect but I’ve never doubted we belong together. I can’t imagine life apart and divorce has never been an option for us.
When I’ve felt called by God to try something new, my wife has always been the first to say, “Let’s do it!” When I’ve taken risks, my wife has always been the first to say, “We’ll be ok no matter what happens.” Even when she hasn’t fully understood, my wife has always been at my side.
I’ve never been a perfect husband but I’ve never shied away from taking care of her. Anything worth doing is going to be hard and being the husband my wife deserves is no different. It’s not always easy or convenient, but it’s what I vowed to do. It’s what I want to do.
If you’re a married man, take this to heart: Your wife will follow your lead. So, give more than you take and let her be thankful for you. The only sure way to have a wife you’re thankful for is to… Love your wife as Christ loves the church. Give yourself up for her to make her holy. And engage the Word with her. Do that and God will strengthen you in ways you’ve never imagined.